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a free service from Spankoz Australia . We are happy to provide advice on any
ADULT spanking related subject .
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read this page first :
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
More advice ,
from Dr. Susan Block .
As questions
of general interest come in , we will put a selection of them here along with our answers .
All personal details are either disguised or removed . Please do not ask
about spanking minors or we may organise a ride in a local police car for you (
i.e. our privacy protection does not apply to these requests ) .
Unfortunately
the previous spanking advice page was accidentally deleted , this new page may take some
time to build .
dear delilah
,
My husband loves to spank
me lightly , especially before making love. Is this normal ?
-- bad girl
dear bad girl ,
While spanking is a sexual behavior that doesn't show up in every bedroom , it
certainly isn't abnormal . In fact , light spanking is one of the five most
common forms of kinky sex play and is very arousing for many people . As long as
it doesn't bother you , why not engage in something that turns him on ?
----- Original Message -----
From:
Sent: Sunday, December 24, 2000 7:26 AM
Subject: How To
I have just met a young lady who is very
upfront about wanting to be spanked. She apparently has had a few spankers in her recent past. She wants a
monogamous relationship with me but says she really needs to be spanked as an emotional release.
I have spanked a young lady in the past but I am still very much an amateur, with no knowledge of technique other than that which comes naturally. Is
there a paper or book or website where I can learn "how to" deliver a
sensual spanking, one that combines pain and pleasure?
N .
__________________________________
Hello ,
Yes our FAQ page will answer most questions , but
it has gone missing . We will let you know when we get a copy back
or time to rewrite the page . In the meantime , bare bottom is best , warmup
the whole area first , use a safe word ( it is her level which counts )
and spanking the lower half of the bottom is recommended . Do not ease off ,
the most common complaint is that it was not hard enough .
Let us know how it goes .
Regards ,
Spankoz
----- Original Message -----
From:
To: <plan@spankoz.com>
Sent: Tuesday, August 22, 2000 7:50 AM
Subject: spanking
I recently came across your site and found it very interesting. For some years I have wanted my wife to cane or spank me. She did try but found it
very distasteful. The result it was discontinued. I became frustrated and no doubt it showed in our relationship. Also she would not wish me to
spank her. I was wondering if you could advise me how to try and persuade her to
try out the Spencer Plan. If I could persuade her that there were benefits in it for her and no real drawbacks then I might have a chance. I was
thinking if the plan could be amended to include rewards for her e g a holiday if the plan was successfully implemented for nine months. We live
in XXXX .
Your help and advise would be gratefully received.
A .
_____________________________
Hello ,
Please excuse the delay in reply , we had a few problems , as you can see from the site . If you do not mind , we will put the text of your question
and our reply on our Temporary Advice page - no names or addresses of course .
The problem you are faced with is getting her to understand , on an emotional level , why you would like to spank her and why you would like her to spank you .You probably have already thought about this from your
perspective but you will have to put yourself in her position and come up with what will ease her objections . Getting to spank her will probably be a lot easier than you being spanked , most women have some form of initial
objection to spanking another adult . Women can start out receiving only and later their interests change to giving .The trick is to make it as natural
as you can . Why not try a light hand over the knee spanking first , you can build up later ? Bare bottom is best as it is the most sensual way .
If it is not too late you may like to try body massages and lightly touching her bottom when making love . Your task will be a lot easier if you have a
high degree of physical intimacy in your relationship with her .
This is something which can not be pushed , it may or may not happen as a continuing occurrence . You have to be prepared to make strategic retreats and ultimately to give up the pursuit . Believe it or not this mindset will
increase your chances and stop this issue spilling over into other areas of your lives .
If all else fails , you may be able to get her to consent to you seeing a professional ( female for preference ) and if she is not completely put off
by your interest have her go with you the first time .
Unfortunately , you are probably beyond the leaving out of books and videos
stage .
Once you get the spanking spark going then you can introduce the Plan .
Good luck and please let us know how it works out .
Regards ,
Spankoz
----- Original Message -----
From:
To: <ADVICE@SPANKOZ.COM>
Sent: Friday, December 29, 2000 2:46 AM
Subject: caning
I will be giving my girlfriend (slave) a very heavy caning this week we have agreed 100 strokes of a heavy cane,
serious damage to her as I just need to thrash her not cripple her .
J .
Hello ,
Well first off , we hope both of you have done this before and know how to use safe words !
She needs to be well warmed beforehand and may need some sort of penetrating cream if her skin is dry . Make sure that the skin is not too tight and
adjust her upper body as necessary , the spine should be arched towards the front , this will push the lower part of her cheeks further out .You should
have an ice pack and some Panadol ( not aspirin ) etc ready . Applying pressure to any marks immediately afterwards will lessen bruising . She will
have to stay still as the cane comes in , lay her over something if necessary .
If you are not used to this level of caning we would suggest some practice
with cushions . Otherwise your aim may not be so good towards the end . Aim for the centre of the outside cheek and bring the cane down parallel to the
floor and cheeks , striking the inner cheek just before the end hits the outer cheek . Do not let the tip hit first or rap around the side . Move the
point of impact up and down between the centre of both cheeks and the join with the thighs ( this is the fleshiest and most sensitive part of the
bottom ) . Avoid hitting anywhere near the spine or it's base ,
the " tailbone " which is located underneath the join at the top of
the cheeks .
The cane should be flexible , well oiled but dry with no splits or high
ridges and a slightly rounded end . The longer the cane is the harder it is to control . Depending upon your abilities , somewhere between 3 and 4 feet should do . A slightly shorter one may be best if you have any doubts .
In view of the proposed number of strokes you might consider short breaks but do not let her bottom cool too much during these breaks .
We have answered this question on face value and on the assumption that commonsense will be used .
Please let us know if this has helped .
Regards ,
Spankoz
Note , here is an example
of how not to cane , the marks are tip and wrap marks :
(
IN MEMBERS AREA )
This is a lot better ,
but still not even and the cane is too far across :
These are excellent :
(
IN MEMBERS AREA )
How you stand is
important :
If you move around , this
could happen :
I am 19 and have wanted a strong spanking for a long time.
My girlfriend has agreed to cane me but I need to know how many strokes should
she give me and where and if it should be bare or not ????
_____________________________
The technical " How To " answer is above .
There is a general progression in spanking severity from hand to
leather and on to wood . The cane has been romanticised for years , in
some ways it is the ultimate implement . It is a relative newcomer to the West ,
replacing the birch in the 1800's .
Using a cane properly requires experience . A suggestion would
be to try a paddle instead on the lower half of your bottom , you will soon find
our how many strokes are required . The risk of breaking your skin is much less
with a paddle , even on the bare bottom . If you want to try the cane , have her
use it lightly until she can hit the right area repeatedly . A bare bottom is
best for this as she will be able to see the marks for a short time and then be
able to adjust her aim . Once she can do this , the strength of the blows may
be
increased . A cane should not be forced and when it's limit is reached a heavier
cane should be used . A selection of canes should be available .
We hope this helps .
How do I meet others who share my interest in spanking / being
spanked ?
_____________________________
TBA
Sometimes we wonder if
the questions are real :
Hello,
I need your help with something please, and please get back with me. I have a tendency of walking around the house, and complex with just my underwear on, showing off, and be nasty. I know that if my grandmother were
to know about it, she would make sure I don't sit for a month literally. I really know what I do is wrong, and I do need a good paddling, but I don't
know how to approach her about it, I just feel weird about it. So can u get back with me, and give me some advice on what to say to her about it when I
approach her, and how do u think i should be spanked for doing that, and etc, please get back with me, this is very
important
.... F
Hello ,
Why not print this and give it to your grandmother . Please let us know if this
approach works .
Regards ,
Spankoz Australia
----- Original Message -----
From:
To: <advice@spankoz.net>
Sent: Saturday, October 25, 2003 7:20 AM
Subject: Question re Marks
My wife has three marks that open up immediately when spanked. We are at
an extremely high level, but even now these areas bleed on the first couple
strokes. She said, she doesn't mind, I'm just concerned that I might do
some permanent damage. Is there anything I can do?
Hello ,
There is a technical name for this condition , it is like a boil and tends
to get worse over time . They can be cut out , generally one or two stitches are
involved . A visit to the Doctor is advised to confirm that this is what it is
and not something more sinister . Disinfect your implements before and after use
.
Regards ,
Spankoz
----- Original Message -----
From:
Sent:
Friday, October 17, 2003 10:11 AM
Subject:
mature adult
I am a mature adult male. I have on
many occasions tried to stop going to professionals to receive very hard
spanking. However, I find myself always returning after a period of
time. Spanking is not a sexual thing with me, it is more of a way to relieve
stress.
I am married, over 30 years and could never
broach this subject at home because I also believe that this behavior is
bizarre and certainly not normal.
Can you help me understand this behavior?
After I receive a hard spanking, I feel guilty as though I have cheated.
Hello ,
Please excuse the delay , we
have been having a lot of email problems .
We really need some more
details about you feelings and background to properly answer your question .
You may find that your behaviour is not that unusual .
Hoping to hear from you ,
Hello again ,
There are a few notes
below .
----- Original Message -----
Sent: Thursday, October 23, 2003 8:32 AM
Subject: Re: mature adult
Hello:
I really do not know exactly what you are
looking for but I will try to explain.
Prior history , esp. childhood .
I really have tried for well over two years to
stop scheduling appointments with a professional Dominatrix to receive
hard to heavy spankings. Usually I can last for about 2-3 months,
then when I am very stressed, I schedule an appointment.
This is a common cycle .
As I indicated in my previous message I am a
happily married mature adult male, early 60s. My wife would never
understand my need and quite frankly neither do I.
Generally there is a underlying
reason , possibly guilt or something from your earlier life . Your
feelings about these sessions may be a continuation of the "
punishment " . Wives can become conservative with age , exposure to
other ideas through books and films may help , along with intimacy and
passion in sex .
I believe that this type of behavior is
bizarre and quite strange. Every time I go I push my limits more and
more. I prefer instruments as paddles, hairbrush, strap, and some limited
cane. I would probably engage in more caning but I do not want long
lasting marks. I only will accept marks that will go away in a day
or two. Because of my career I must remain very discreet. The
Dominatrix whom I see understands and respects my wishes. There is
no role play, no fantasy games, just hard spanking.
It would seem that there is little
downside to your activities , the only problem is how you regard them .
This is something that you can change , if you wish . Wooden paddles
produce a deep feeling , without the heavier marking that occurs from the
use of canes .
I just do not understand why an articulate
mature male would engage in this type of behavior. After a session, I
become guilty and feel as though I have cheated on my marriage.
Looking at it objectively , the only
" cheating " is secrecy and maybe intimacy with someone other
than your wife . You might like to share your feelings with your wife ,
she may not understand but many wives ( and husbands ) agree to their
partners seeing someone else for " discipline " . You may
consider doing nothing , as the current arrangement appears to be working
.
That is my story, no more, no less.
Thank you for responding .
These visits have nothing to do with sex, I go
literally to receive a heavy beating.
We hope that this helps . Please
feel free to reply to these brief notes .
Regards ,
Spankoz
This
Is Not A Spanking Advice Column
Since this is not
a spanking advice column, I’m not always as nice as I should be when people
write in. Especially when the letter reads like this:
I’ve always
had a little bit of a spanking fetish and I've always wanted to spank some
sexy hot chick, but I've never been able to. how do i convince a girl to let
me do that
ShAdOwKnIgHt
Some necessary but
not sufficient tips:
1) Stop
capitalizing your online handle like a gE3k.
2) Better yet, don’t use your online gaming handle at all.
3) Don’t try to “convince” a girl; try instead to find a girl (better
yet, a woman) who wants a spanking.
4) Use the internet to find her. It’s what you’re good at. And it’s
where she is.
5) When using the internet to find a woman, spelling and punctuation are not
optional.
6) All women are sexy. Most are hot. And few are “chicks”. Don’t limit
yourself.
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